Hey Loves! I recently joined a natural hair group on Facebook, called My Knotty Mane, where I found a post from blogger Vivian of Knots & Bolts. She posted her own answers to the natural hair tag. I thought it was a great idea, and so I decided to blog about my own journey. I hope you like it. I’ve also created a video version on my YouTube channel. Feel free to copy these questions down to create your own tag video or blog post. I’d love to read and/or watch them!
Natural Hair Tag
1. How long have you been natural? I’m three years natural, entering my fourth year.
2. When did you go natural? I was 27 when I decided to go natural. I was tired of wearing extensions constantly. I was also tired of relaxers. My scalp and hair were a mess, so I wanted to start fresh. I took the plunge and cut it all off. I asked my stylist to give me a mohawk. After my sides grew out a bit, I asked for a pixie cut. Eventually, I had a TWA and never looked back.
3. How did you feel about your hair before vs now? Early on, I didn’t think much of my hair. I liked when my hair was styled. I took care of my weaves, wigs, and ponytails. I got a touch up when needed, but I never really thought about my hair health. Now I’m OBSESSED with my hair (lol). She is an extension of me and I live for the care it takes to make sure she is in good spirits. I sometimes feel bad for how long I took my hair for granted. I think it’s easy to assume that it will always be there. But as I learned more about traction alopecia, permanent hair loss from chemical burns, and other damaging things that can happen when we neglect our hair, it made me want to be much better to my hair. There’s so much that can effect our bodies through long term exposure from relaxers, to coloring. I just want to have my edges and a full head of hair for as long as possible. I haven’t even purchased fake hair nearly as much as I did before going natural. I have added hair for fullness and had braids for all of 3 weeks. I love being able to play in my hair. I love moisturizing it, washing it, treating it. I feel strange when I can’t touch her.
4. My regimen: I alternate between clarifying and co washing every other week. I do a monthly hot oil treatment, a monthly clay mask, and I deep condition weekly. I also moisturize using the LOC method (Leave-In Conditioner, Oil, and Curl Cream or styling product of choice). That’s pretty much it.
5. Products: I love the As I Am Coconut Co-Wash and the Clarifying Shampoo from the same line. I deep condition with Macadamia Deep Conditioning Mask. For detangler, I use Qhemet Biologics Detangling Ghee. For my hot oil treatment I use a mix of oils (coconut, olive, macadamia, vitamin e, tea tree, almond, avocado, and jojoba). For moisturizing I use Qhemet Biologics Heavy Cream and the Softening Serum to seal it in. For styling I use Qhemet Biologics Aethiopika Hydrate & Twist Butter. This routine keeps my hair moisturized all week.
6. How do people feel about your natural hair? I’m generally complimented on my hair. My family had mixed feelings initially, but now that they see how healthy and long it’s gotten, they are asking me questions about how to care for their kids, and their own hair. Strangers seem to like it as well. I’ve been asked if it’s real, how long I’ve been natural, and of course if they can touch it (the answer for me is no).
7. Fave Hairstyles? A puff, bun, or I wear it out in all of its glory!
8. Natural Hair and Dating? Hasn’t been a problem for me. In fact, I’ve attracted more men because of it. In particular, men outside of my race seem fascinated. Must be because #blackgirlsaremagic LOL! No but seriously, I think it’s because of my own confidence about my hair. If you love it, others will too.
9. Wash Day/ Night time? I wash my hair on Sunday afternoon. By the time the night comes, I’m all set under my bonnet.
10. Advice for new naturals? Stay with it! That’s my biggest piece of advice. I have gone through quiet a few struggles, but have never thought that I would be better off relaxing it or covering it up because I couldn’t get the hang of it. Just like any other relationship, this takes work. But once you crack the code, your relationship with your hair will blossom. Love your hair for what it is, not what you wish it were. My hair is fine, prone to breakage, and it dries very easily. I had to figure out how to maintain moisture and accept that I will never have a thick lion’s mane of hair like my fave natural hair gurus. But I love my hair for what she is and what she CAN do. I think that is the key. It ties into self acceptance. Once you get there, no one can tell you a damn thing about yourself. You will know you’re everything, because you truly are ❤